I would never, have never, just turned on a movie or show without asking first if you want to watch it. Certain movies, that I know you'll hate, I wouldn't even bother to ask. Those, I DVR, and then never watch because I don't EVER get to just watch whatever suits me. I cater to the collective, even if it's just you and me.
So yeah, I think it's totally rude, when one minute you ask what I want to do tonight and the next you turn on a movie that you know I have no interest in. Even when you leave the room and the movie is paused for an extended time, and I ask, "Are you planning to watch this movie?" you don't get the hint. Even when I remove myself from the room and go watch in the bedroom (where there is no DVR to watch the movies I like) you don't get the hint.
And by the way...96% of the movies you want to watch I will hate. But you could at least act like you care. You could say, hey, I want to watch this, do you? It's about blah blah... but no. Just take it all over why don'tcha!
GRRRRR
There's your problem. Stop hinting and start telling. I think it is the only way men ever understand: when we spell it out in a way a kindergartner would understand. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteOh, that's so common!
ReplyDeleteIf my husband wants companionship, to a show, a concert or a museum, not mention just wanting to be heard, I am there for him. I listen, I go, I smile, I nod, I agree, I even disagree intelligently.
But ask him to do something that's not his bag? He will flat out say no and can't you ask a girlfriend to do that with you?
SO I started doing just that. I went places with girlfriends, chatted more witht them, started planning tentative trips with them ... didn't someone decide to take me to see the King Tut exhibit in NYC next weekend. He originally told me he wasn't interested.
So maybe the trick is to have a life and not worry about what hubby thinks. Seems to have better effect and we get to watch what we want.